“Andrea you have got to figure out why you put yourself in a position to be disappointed when you knew that they were not emotionally available for you to pursue romantically. Them being emotionally unavailable is not a challenge! Stop treating it like one!” I stood there stunned. My good friends know me well enoughContinue reading ““Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge”
Monthly Archives: January 2022
The One Who is Objectively Observant Wins
I am a learner. Constantly growing, digging deep and exploring not only the my own mind, but the minds of those who allow me close enough to explore theirs. I notice things: small subtleties, habits, tendencies, perspectives and it’s off-putting for a lot of people. Because when you only know someone for a few monthsContinue reading “The One Who is Objectively Observant Wins”
Being the First to Apologize
I am someone who avoided conflict for a really long time before I figured out how to get good at it. And by “good at it”, I mean embracing the uncomfortable in order to establish clarity. I don’t mind being temporarily uncomfortable if it means I can be better for it for myself and theContinue reading “Being the First to Apologize”
When Grief Sets In
This week has been filled to the brim with nothing but loss. One friend lost her mom on January 5th, another friend lost her brother on January 8th, and my manager at work committed suicide on January 14th, and the morning of January 15th my roommate and I were rejected for our 3rd house inContinue reading “When Grief Sets In”
Your Scars are Proof of Your Strength
When I look back on my life leading up to 28 I find myself truly in awe, wonder and shock. I look back 10 years ago, of who I was then— and the truth is…it’s nice to think about what life would’ve been like had I made different choices. But the scars my choices gaveContinue reading “Your Scars are Proof of Your Strength”
Your Feelings Aren’t A Choice, Your Behavior Is
“Your feelings aren’t a choice, your behavior is.” The first time I heard that quote it left me speechless— and for those of you that know me, that’s no easy task. It resonated with me because how often do we treat our feelings like they control our behavior? If you’re anything like me then theContinue reading “Your Feelings Aren’t A Choice, Your Behavior Is”
The “Fear Factor”
If you grew up when I did then you may have heard of the TV show Fear Factor. It was a game show designed to put the participants in all sorts of situations facing their fears and fears they didn’t even know they had to entertain people at home. What I think is so interestingContinue reading “The “Fear Factor””
The Peculiar Pursuit
It’s not everyday that it’s your birthday. But by the time you read this, I will have turned 28. I can no longer say I’m in my mid-twenties. I’m officially a late-twenties girl. Somehow I thought I’d be further along in life—but I think we all do. But the truth is any drama or comedyContinue reading “The Peculiar Pursuit”
The Good, The Bad, & The Grey
Sometimes lessons come in the form of mistakes, whether they be personally yours or lived vicariously through someone else. Life is made of choices. And while I strive to be someone who makes “good choices” that are affirmed by others as “good choices”, sometimes I make choices that are grey. And then, because they’re grey,Continue reading “The Good, The Bad, & The Grey”
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