It’s been almost 2 months now since I actively started putting myself in positions to go out on dates. And while I wouldn’t call my dating experiences necessarily fruitful, I would say that they have opened my eyes to a lot resistance, on my end. Resistance to play the game. You know the one: “swipeyContinue reading ““Use the {Feedback} Force””
Author Archives: andreastatler
Messy Monotony
I’ll be honest— if you haven’t figured it out by now based on my writing, I’m a mess. And not even the aesthetically “perfectly looking” “messy bun, no makeup wearing, “if you don’t like me at my worst you dont deserve me at my best” Marilyn Monroe quoting, everyday Starbucks buying instagram ready” type ofContinue reading “Messy Monotony”
Day 1
The start of anything is always somewhat easy. You’re pumped up, motivated and ready to go. Right? But then, day two, day three and at some point you fall off the wagon starting over at day 1 striving for consistency, but struggling. It’s the ongoing decision to be consistent that is such a struggle. DayContinue reading “Day 1”
Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing”
There’s only two types of timing. Now or Never. It isn’t Now, Later, or Never. In the same way that there is no 8th day of the week called “someday”. Later is never an option, because it isn’t guaranteed. Later is never a “sure thing”. The only thing we can ever be sure of isContinue reading “Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing””
Sometimes Pursuing Peace Looks Like Coping with Chaos
I heard a quote recently that said, “Whatever is the enemy of your peace needs to be removed.” While that sounds fine in theory, when you think deeper about what happens if you were to actually do that it causes us to ultimately live more self-centeredly.. it’s like saying, “if this doesn’t serve me thenContinue reading “Sometimes Pursuing Peace Looks Like Coping with Chaos”
An Open Letter to the Moms Who Are Grieving
If I knew the right words I’d write them. But there are no words that could bring you comfort. That doesn’t mean I won’t try to ease both of our broken hearts through my shaky hands and tear stained face. Time may heal some wounds of this world but the grief of a mother’s heartContinue reading “An Open Letter to the Moms Who Are Grieving”
We’re All Brainwashed
I can hear the cringy facial expression coming through the screen from you as I write that awful sentence.. “We’re All Brainwashed.” And as cringy as it sounds— if we were all honest with ourselves we would know that this is true. Brainwashing, as defined by Merriam-Webster, is “a forcible indoctrination to induce someone toContinue reading “We’re All Brainwashed”
Monday Muse
When you’re starving, you’ll settle for whatever crumb you can manage to find. When you’re bored you’ll seek out the foods that make you feel good. When you’re satisfied you’ll only seek out the foods that nourish you from the inside out. Because settling for a morsel or an occasional treat is great, but itContinue reading “Monday Muse”
The Non-Apology
As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to a bit of a crossroads of what behavior I can handle in my relationships and what type of behavior is worthy of a conversation to see if a compromise could be created. What I’ve found is that people who choose not to see their contributions as to howContinue reading “The Non-Apology”
What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve
Sometimes the simplest things fascinate me the most— and the thing that has been fascinating me lately is how we program our mind to what we think we deserve. It’s a nutty concept really— how we perceive ourselves directly correlates with what we think we deserve. So if we don’t see ourselves as worthy ofContinue reading “What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve”
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