“I appreciate you!” doesn’t mean what you think it means. I used to think that being appreciated meant to receive validation of effort, work or time spent for someone else and they recognized the benefit they received from it. But no, simply acknowledging someone else’s effort isn’t appreciation. It’s stating the obvious. They’re saying: “IContinue reading “Cheap Appreciation”
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The Grief of Outgrowing Young Adulthood
When you’re little it’s easy to make friends. You’re 4 years old, you see a kid on the playground & go up to them and ask if they want to play tag and by the end of the game you’re best friends! Excited and ready to explore other fun adventures on the playground together. It’sContinue reading “The Grief of Outgrowing Young Adulthood”
Top 13 Dealbreakers as a Woman in her Late Twenties
When you get into your late twenties and remain {voluntarily} unmarried there are a few deal breakers that I have found that I am unable to handle based on my previous experiences— so these dealbreakers are mine— and if it resonates with you, awesome— if not, then maybe if you’re in a similar position youContinue reading “Top 13 Dealbreakers as a Woman in her Late Twenties”
Messy Monotony
I’ll be honest— if you haven’t figured it out by now based on my writing, I’m a mess. And not even the aesthetically “perfectly looking” “messy bun, no makeup wearing, “if you don’t like me at my worst you dont deserve me at my best” Marilyn Monroe quoting, everyday Starbucks buying instagram ready” type ofContinue reading “Messy Monotony”
Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing”
There’s only two types of timing. Now or Never. It isn’t Now, Later, or Never. In the same way that there is no 8th day of the week called “someday”. Later is never an option, because it isn’t guaranteed. Later is never a “sure thing”. The only thing we can ever be sure of isContinue reading “Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing””
The Non-Apology
As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to a bit of a crossroads of what behavior I can handle in my relationships and what type of behavior is worthy of a conversation to see if a compromise could be created. What I’ve found is that people who choose not to see their contributions as to howContinue reading “The Non-Apology”
What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve
Sometimes the simplest things fascinate me the most— and the thing that has been fascinating me lately is how we program our mind to what we think we deserve. It’s a nutty concept really— how we perceive ourselves directly correlates with what we think we deserve. So if we don’t see ourselves as worthy ofContinue reading “What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve”
“Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge
“Andrea you have got to figure out why you put yourself in a position to be disappointed when you knew that they were not emotionally available for you to pursue romantically. Them being emotionally unavailable is not a challenge! Stop treating it like one!” I stood there stunned. My good friends know me well enoughContinue reading ““Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge”
Being the First to Apologize
I am someone who avoided conflict for a really long time before I figured out how to get good at it. And by “good at it”, I mean embracing the uncomfortable in order to establish clarity. I don’t mind being temporarily uncomfortable if it means I can be better for it for myself and theContinue reading “Being the First to Apologize”
The Peculiar Pursuit
It’s not everyday that it’s your birthday. But by the time you read this, I will have turned 28. I can no longer say I’m in my mid-twenties. I’m officially a late-twenties girl. Somehow I thought I’d be further along in life—but I think we all do. But the truth is any drama or comedyContinue reading “The Peculiar Pursuit”
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