Sometimes lessons come in the form of mistakes, whether they be personally yours or lived vicariously through someone else. Life is made of choices. And while I strive to be someone who makes “good choices” that are affirmed by others as “good choices”, sometimes I make choices that are grey. And then, because they’re grey,Continue reading “The Good, The Bad, & The Grey”
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The 5 Ways To Know You’re in the Wrong Relationship
It’s easy to stay in a relationship when you know you’re with the wrong person. Sometimes we prefer to be with the wrong person because that seems better than being alone with the lies of inadequacy that are so easy to believe. But that’s just it: you’re either constantly being reminded that you’re not goodContinue reading “The 5 Ways To Know You’re in the Wrong Relationship”
Forgetting My First Choice
My social life growing up was less than ideal. I had a huge yearn for friends— not just “school friends” but the school friends who became “good friends” or even “BFFs” by hanging out over the weekend. When those opportunities rarely came, I settled on the attention I received by being the one that peopleContinue reading “Forgetting My First Choice”
6 Steps Toward Empathetic Understanding
If you’re anything like me, I have a need to verbally process my thoughts and feelings. Keeping my thoughts and feelings inside of my brain just … 6 Steps Toward Empathetic Understanding
6 Steps Toward Empathetic Understanding
If you’re anything like me, I have a need to verbally process my thoughts and feelings. Keeping my thoughts and feelings inside of my brain just means I’m avoiding the reality that they are all jumbled up into this messy plate of spaghetti where no organization or resolution can happen. I’m spinning my wheels, butContinue reading “6 Steps Toward Empathetic Understanding”
3 Questions NOT to Ask to Your *Still* Single Family Members
There is such a thing as good intentions communicated terribly. Most often these moments happen around the holidays with well-intentioned family members who just want to know what’s going on in your life. ***I’ve only dealt with this one time, personally— but felt it was necessary to talk about*** If you’re like me (or haveContinue reading “3 Questions NOT to Ask to Your *Still* Single Family Members”
The Seasons of *seemingly* One-Sided Friendships
Not to toot my own trumpet over here, but one thing I’ve got going for me in the midst of all my MANY faults is intentionality. In my world, this means that the people in my life that I appreciate and desire to grow with, I strive to give attention and care to them consistently.Continue reading “The Seasons of *seemingly* One-Sided Friendships”
The Gift of Presence
I saw a quote the other day that said, “Phones of the 2020s are the cigarettes of the 1980s.” And I can’t help but agree. It’s really hard to spend uninterrupted time with people anymore. We spend so much time in a virtual world where we crave to be constantly entertained that more often thanContinue reading “The Gift of Presence”
The Intimate Quality
This time last year I took a step of faith out of my comfort zone as I met with an acquaintance from high school for dinner. Normally this wouldn’t be so out of character for me to meet up with someone after almost 10 years, but this was different. This guy was different. This wasContinue reading “The Intimate Quality”
Doing the Hard Things are {almost always} the Right Things
I mulled over this idea for a while: “Should I? Shouldn’t I? It’s not that big of a deal, right? No, no.. It’s fine, everything is fine.. Guys who are in relationships talk on the phone to their friends that are girls for just shy of 3 hours— this is normal. Maybe its just aContinue reading “Doing the Hard Things are {almost always} the Right Things”
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