“I appreciate you!” doesn’t mean what you think it means. I used to think that being appreciated meant to receive validation of effort, work or time spent for someone else and they recognized the benefit they received from it. But no, simply acknowledging someone else’s effort isn’t appreciation. It’s stating the obvious. They’re saying: “IContinue reading “Cheap Appreciation”
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The Secret to Consistency
Recently I’ve been embarking on a journey that’s been long overdue: the journey of finally taking care of me. This is quite the stretch outside of my comfort zone. I have always been the person who looks for ways to ease the burdens of others, but never my own. I look for ways to meetContinue reading “The Secret to Consistency”
Pursuing Compassionate Conflict
I wouldn’t say I’m someone who has ever had what most would consider to be “a lot” of friends. I’ve had “a lot” of acquaintances who I’d see and and have conversations with at school and work but they never went further than that. But of the few friends in my circle who I haveContinue reading “Pursuing Compassionate Conflict”
Messy Monotony
I’ll be honest— if you haven’t figured it out by now based on my writing, I’m a mess. And not even the aesthetically “perfectly looking” “messy bun, no makeup wearing, “if you don’t like me at my worst you dont deserve me at my best” Marilyn Monroe quoting, everyday Starbucks buying instagram ready” type ofContinue reading “Messy Monotony”
Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing”
There’s only two types of timing. Now or Never. It isn’t Now, Later, or Never. In the same way that there is no 8th day of the week called “someday”. Later is never an option, because it isn’t guaranteed. Later is never a “sure thing”. The only thing we can ever be sure of isContinue reading “Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing””
Monday Muse
When you’re starving, you’ll settle for whatever crumb you can manage to find. When you’re bored you’ll seek out the foods that make you feel good. When you’re satisfied you’ll only seek out the foods that nourish you from the inside out. Because settling for a morsel or an occasional treat is great, but itContinue reading “Monday Muse”
The Non-Apology
As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to a bit of a crossroads of what behavior I can handle in my relationships and what type of behavior is worthy of a conversation to see if a compromise could be created. What I’ve found is that people who choose not to see their contributions as to howContinue reading “The Non-Apology”
What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve
Sometimes the simplest things fascinate me the most— and the thing that has been fascinating me lately is how we program our mind to what we think we deserve. It’s a nutty concept really— how we perceive ourselves directly correlates with what we think we deserve. So if we don’t see ourselves as worthy ofContinue reading “What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve”
Caring with Courage
I’ll be honest, caring for others can be exhausting. So exhausting in fact that we do it with such a passive attitude that could make the ones we care about question the depths of how much we care. I’m my own worst critic in this area, but I’ve also observed one critical quote that isContinue reading “Caring with Courage”
Being the First to Apologize
I am someone who avoided conflict for a really long time before I figured out how to get good at it. And by “good at it”, I mean embracing the uncomfortable in order to establish clarity. I don’t mind being temporarily uncomfortable if it means I can be better for it for myself and theContinue reading “Being the First to Apologize”
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