When you get into your late twenties and remain {voluntarily} unmarried there are a few deal breakers that I have found that I am unable to handle based on my previous experiences— so these dealbreakers are mine— and if it resonates with you, awesome— if not, then maybe if you’re in a similar position youContinue reading “Top 13 Dealbreakers as a Woman in her Late Twenties”
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“Use the {Feedback} Force”
It’s been almost 2 months now since I actively started putting myself in positions to go out on dates. And while I wouldn’t call my dating experiences necessarily fruitful, I would say that they have opened my eyes to a lot resistance, on my end. Resistance to play the game. You know the one: “swipeyContinue reading ““Use the {Feedback} Force””
Sometimes Pursuing Peace Looks Like Coping with Chaos
I heard a quote recently that said, “Whatever is the enemy of your peace needs to be removed.” While that sounds fine in theory, when you think deeper about what happens if you were to actually do that it causes us to ultimately live more self-centeredly.. it’s like saying, “if this doesn’t serve me thenContinue reading “Sometimes Pursuing Peace Looks Like Coping with Chaos”
The Non-Apology
As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to a bit of a crossroads of what behavior I can handle in my relationships and what type of behavior is worthy of a conversation to see if a compromise could be created. What I’ve found is that people who choose not to see their contributions as to howContinue reading “The Non-Apology”
What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve
Sometimes the simplest things fascinate me the most— and the thing that has been fascinating me lately is how we program our mind to what we think we deserve. It’s a nutty concept really— how we perceive ourselves directly correlates with what we think we deserve. So if we don’t see ourselves as worthy ofContinue reading “What You Allow is What You *THINK* You Deserve”
Caring with Courage
I’ll be honest, caring for others can be exhausting. So exhausting in fact that we do it with such a passive attitude that could make the ones we care about question the depths of how much we care. I’m my own worst critic in this area, but I’ve also observed one critical quote that isContinue reading “Caring with Courage”
“Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge
“Andrea you have got to figure out why you put yourself in a position to be disappointed when you knew that they were not emotionally available for you to pursue romantically. Them being emotionally unavailable is not a challenge! Stop treating it like one!” I stood there stunned. My good friends know me well enoughContinue reading ““Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge”
Being the First to Apologize
I am someone who avoided conflict for a really long time before I figured out how to get good at it. And by “good at it”, I mean embracing the uncomfortable in order to establish clarity. I don’t mind being temporarily uncomfortable if it means I can be better for it for myself and theContinue reading “Being the First to Apologize”
Your Feelings Aren’t A Choice, Your Behavior Is
“Your feelings aren’t a choice, your behavior is.” The first time I heard that quote it left me speechless— and for those of you that know me, that’s no easy task. It resonated with me because how often do we treat our feelings like they control our behavior? If you’re anything like me then theContinue reading “Your Feelings Aren’t A Choice, Your Behavior Is”
The “Fear Factor”
If you grew up when I did then you may have heard of the TV show Fear Factor. It was a game show designed to put the participants in all sorts of situations facing their fears and fears they didn’t even know they had to entertain people at home. What I think is so interestingContinue reading “The “Fear Factor””
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