The start of anything is always somewhat easy. You’re pumped up, motivated and ready to go. Right? But then, day two, day three and at some point you fall off the wagon starting over at day 1 striving for consistency, but struggling. It’s the ongoing decision to be consistent that is such a struggle. DayContinue reading “Day 1”
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Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing”
There’s only two types of timing. Now or Never. It isn’t Now, Later, or Never. In the same way that there is no 8th day of the week called “someday”. Later is never an option, because it isn’t guaranteed. Later is never a “sure thing”. The only thing we can ever be sure of isContinue reading “Creating Security Without “Perfect Timing””
Sometimes Pursuing Peace Looks Like Coping with Chaos
I heard a quote recently that said, “Whatever is the enemy of your peace needs to be removed.” While that sounds fine in theory, when you think deeper about what happens if you were to actually do that it causes us to ultimately live more self-centeredly.. it’s like saying, “if this doesn’t serve me thenContinue reading “Sometimes Pursuing Peace Looks Like Coping with Chaos”
Monday Muse
When you’re starving, you’ll settle for whatever crumb you can manage to find. When you’re bored you’ll seek out the foods that make you feel good. When you’re satisfied you’ll only seek out the foods that nourish you from the inside out. Because settling for a morsel or an occasional treat is great, but itContinue reading “Monday Muse”
The Non-Apology
As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to a bit of a crossroads of what behavior I can handle in my relationships and what type of behavior is worthy of a conversation to see if a compromise could be created. What I’ve found is that people who choose not to see their contributions as to howContinue reading “The Non-Apology”
The Power of a Glimpse
If there’s any one game of my childhood that follows you into adulthood, it’s hide and seek. It’s the one game where in the game of your own life you are “seeking” after what’s hiding, sometimes in plain sight. It’s not the counting that makes it fun, or even actually finding what you’re seeking. TheContinue reading “The Power of a Glimpse”
Caring with Courage
I’ll be honest, caring for others can be exhausting. So exhausting in fact that we do it with such a passive attitude that could make the ones we care about question the depths of how much we care. I’m my own worst critic in this area, but I’ve also observed one critical quote that isContinue reading “Caring with Courage”
The Unintentional Experiment
I am a very huggy-touchy person who comes from a huggy family. And as someone who values that kind of affection, you never know how much it drastically affects your life until, you don’t have it anymore. For the last 3 weeks I was unintentionally doing a blind experiment that I wasn’t even aware of.Continue reading “The Unintentional Experiment”
“Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge
“Andrea you have got to figure out why you put yourself in a position to be disappointed when you knew that they were not emotionally available for you to pursue romantically. Them being emotionally unavailable is not a challenge! Stop treating it like one!” I stood there stunned. My good friends know me well enoughContinue reading ““Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge”
The One Who is Objectively Observant Wins
I am a learner. Constantly growing, digging deep and exploring not only the my own mind, but the minds of those who allow me close enough to explore theirs. I notice things: small subtleties, habits, tendencies, perspectives and it’s off-putting for a lot of people. Because when you only know someone for a few monthsContinue reading “The One Who is Objectively Observant Wins”
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