“I appreciate you!” doesn’t mean what you think it means. I used to think that being appreciated meant to receive validation of effort, work or time spent for someone else and they recognized the benefit they received from it. But no, simply acknowledging someone else’s effort isn’t appreciation. It’s stating the obvious. They’re saying: “IContinue reading “Cheap Appreciation”
Tag Archives: Vulnerability
Killing Off my “Pick Me Girl” persona
For as long as I can remember I have been a pick me girl. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, a “pick me girl” (as defined by Wikipedia) is “A woman who claims or acts as if she is unlike most other women, in order to gain attention from men.” But I wouldContinue reading “Killing Off my “Pick Me Girl” persona”
The Little Things
I had a conversation with a friend recently and we were talking about the grand gestures God has shown to prove His great love for us over and over again which are beautiful, powerful testimonies. But then, we discussed the smaller miracles that might get perceived as mere coincidence because it was such a smallContinue reading “The Little Things”
Top 13 Dealbreakers as a Woman in her Late Twenties
When you get into your late twenties and remain {voluntarily} unmarried there are a few deal breakers that I have found that I am unable to handle based on my previous experiences— so these dealbreakers are mine— and if it resonates with you, awesome— if not, then maybe if you’re in a similar position youContinue reading “Top 13 Dealbreakers as a Woman in her Late Twenties”
An Open Letter to the Moms Who Are Grieving
If I knew the right words I’d write them. But there are no words that could bring you comfort. That doesn’t mean I won’t try to ease both of our broken hearts through my shaky hands and tear stained face. Time may heal some wounds of this world but the grief of a mother’s heartContinue reading “An Open Letter to the Moms Who Are Grieving”
The Non-Apology
As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to a bit of a crossroads of what behavior I can handle in my relationships and what type of behavior is worthy of a conversation to see if a compromise could be created. What I’ve found is that people who choose not to see their contributions as to howContinue reading “The Non-Apology”
Toleration vs. Appreciation
As an avid Taylor Swift fan, I’ve found that Taylor has an insane ability to illustrate emotions through imagery and metaphors that people have struggled to find words to describe. Love her, or hate her— her songwriting is thoughtful, creative and describes human emotions in ways I can’t help but appreciate. I was listening toContinue reading “Toleration vs. Appreciation”
I Don’t Want To “Light Up Rooms”
I was talking to one of my best friends at work the other day and we were having a conversation about our enneagram types. With him being a type 2 and him being a type 6 there’s no doubt why we get along so well. (If you haven’t taken the test to better understand whyContinue reading “I Don’t Want To “Light Up Rooms””
The Attitude of Gratitude
People’s minds are fascinating, especially those who give you permission to explore them. When I recently asked a friend to narrow down his favorite comedian turned actor whose movies they could never grow tired of, without hesitation they mentioned the late Robin Williams. I agreed with him, and we spouted off some of our favoriteContinue reading “The Attitude of Gratitude”
“Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge
“Andrea you have got to figure out why you put yourself in a position to be disappointed when you knew that they were not emotionally available for you to pursue romantically. Them being emotionally unavailable is not a challenge! Stop treating it like one!” I stood there stunned. My good friends know me well enoughContinue reading ““Emotionally Unavailable” is NOT a challenge”
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