Everyone likes to talk about the superpowers they wish they had— flying, telepathy, invisibility, eating junkfood and not gain weight…What? is that just me? Ha, okay. 😜
It’s easier to have wishful thinking about something that couldn’t exist than it is to think about the super powers we have the ability to cultivate.
Becoming comfortable with being vulnerable is often the first step in breaking down our pride. When we’re not open, honest and ultimately vulnerable we’re creating a defense mechanism that prevents people from seeing the fullness of who we truly are.
Now, don’t get me wrong— the more vulnerable you are, the more rejection you may face. This is true, I won’t sugarcoat that. However, when you allow yourself to be more vulnerable, the fear of rejection is removed. How? Because when you practice the experience of ongoing rejection it doesn’t hurt as bad the next time, and even less the next time.
Have you ever wondered why successful sales people are successful? It’s because they’re told “no” more than any other sales person, and they keep going anyway. Any time you want to get good at something, it requires getting over the fear that paralyzes you from doing it in the first place. The fear will be there until you say it can’t be there anymore.
Its getting comfortable with the uncomfortable. Its being vulnerable and honest when your feelings for a good friend become more than platonic, everyone else says, “don’t show your hand!”, none of this is a game. And if it is, I’m rewriting the rules for how I’ll play it. It doesn’t involve being dishonest, or avoidant— it embraces rejection full on.
And then maybe, one day, you anticipate the rejection, and are met with reciprocation.
andrea statler 